The Hidden Cost of Being a 'Strong Independent Woman' - And How I Found a Better Way
Lovey, we need to talk about something that's been weighing on my heart.
For years, I wore my "strong independent woman" title like armor. You know the one – career focused, self-reliant, never asking for help, handling everything on my own. As an immigrant and young carer, I thought this was the only way to succeed.
But can I be honest with you? That armor was heavy. And it was blocking my true abundance.
The Price We Pay
Let me paint you a picture of my life back then:
Working excessive hours to prove my worth
Saying "I'm fine" while drowning in overwhelm
Pride stopping me from accepting support
Exhausted but still taking on more
Managing everything alone because "I can handle it"
Sound familiar? I see so many high-achieving women trapped in this cycle.
The Divine Truth
Here's what I discovered through my journey: True strength isn't about doing everything alone. It's about being vulnerable enough to:
Accept support with grace
Allow others to hold space for you
Trust in divine timing
Embrace your soft feminine nature
Let abundance flow to you
The Masculine Lie vs. The Feminine Truth
The Lie: "I don't need anybody. I can do it all myself." The Truth: We're divinely designed for community and support.
The Lie: "Asking for help shows weakness." The Truth: Receiving help is a feminine superpower.
The Lie: "I have to work twice as hard to succeed." The Truth: Alignment attracts more than action ever could.
My Turning Point
Everything shifted when I stopped attaching my femininity to external validation. Instead, I connected to the most masculine force there is – God. This understanding revolutionized how I:
Run my business
Create wealth
Build relationships
Make decisions
Receive abundance
Signs You're Trapped in the 'Strong Woman' Syndrome
You feel guilty taking time off
Accepting help makes you uncomfortable
You're everyone's go-to problem solver
Rest feels unproductive
You're successful but exhausted
Vulnerability feels like weakness
How to Break Free
Embrace Divine Support Start with prayer and surrender. Let the ultimate masculine energy handle the heavy lifting.
Practice Receiving Start small – accept compliments, let someone open a door, receive a gift without immediately planning how to reciprocate.
Release Control Not everything needs your management. Some things can unfold naturally.
Honor Your Feminine Energy Make time for pleasure, creativity, and flow. These aren't luxuries – they're necessities.
A New Definition of Strength
True strength isn't about being independent. It's about being divinely aligned.
It's not about doing everything yourself. It's about attracting the right support.
It's not about pushing harder. It's about flowing easier.
Your Permission Slip
Lovey, consider this your divine permission to:
Ask for help
Accept support
Rest without guilt
Choose ease over struggle
Let yourself be held
Receive abundantly
Remember: You can be soft AND successful. You can be feminine AND powerful. You can be supported AND strong.
With grace and flow, Lorri 💕
